How Do Working Moms Positively Impact Their Families?

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“All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her”. George Washington

According to the Pew Research Center, 41 percent of adults believe that working mothers are something negative for society, while just 22 percent say the net impact is positive (nytimes.com). However, much research has proven that moms who work outside their home have several pros for the family nucleus. Based on the experience of seeing my mom going to work and earn extra income for us, I became more confident about being a woman. It is not easy to maintain a balance between work and family, but we definitely can be assured that women who decide to work outside their homes are something beneficial for their family.

Having a working mom has a positive impact on the household’s budget. This means that not all the financial responsibilities will be on the husband. The extra income will allow parents to provide their children a certain lifestyle, like the opportunity to attend a better school, or the option to engage in extra-curricular activities with the family. For example, a few days ago I went to visit my friend who is a working mother with three kids. I took the chance to talk with her boys regarding how they feel about seeing their mom going to work every day. Evan, who is 6 years old and Tyler, 9 years old, told me that they feel proud. On the other hand, Mason, the 12-year-old, said that he feels proud and positive about the fact that his mom is contributing financially to the household. All of them are involved in activities after school thanks to the extra income his mother is doing. In addition, I asked her if she feels happy with the effort that she is making for her family and she said, “it is totally worth it, especially when you see how your hard work reflected in your kids accomplishments”.

In the same way, when working mothers join the workforce they are sacrificing precious family time; nevertheless, their reward is to feel more confident and motivated, which is a critical attitude that will help them to raise their offspring. As an example, the two sisters of the friend I introduced you to in the previous paragraphs have faced frustration while feeling trapped at home raising their kids. But as soon as moms started working, they became less prone to having that type of episodes. Focusing on their careers restored their confidence and motivation, two important elements of their identity.

Last but not least, mothers who work outside their home are demonstrating the finer points of work/life balance. Children whose mothers also has a professional life probably soon discovered that mom isn’t their maid. Because of mom’s busy schedule, they usually will raise more independent kids by sharing with them all of the household chores. Moreover, by having help from all the family members, moms establish a sense of equality, because their kids get used to seeing everybody doing the same activities such as cooking dinner, doing laundry, doing dishes, etc., as a team.

“Long gone” are the days when women decided to be stay-home moms: today, 64.4% of the them are financially supporting their families, according to the Center for American Progress (washingtonpost.com). Working moms are leading the workplace, for they are proficient in multi-tasking. Women want to succeed as mother and as professional. In addition, they want to be able to provide more financial stability for their family, they want to feel useful and good about themselves, and the most profitable of all is that they want to be a role model for their kids. It does not matter that their daily routine requires more than 24 hours; the exhaustion and the sleepless nights do not matter; what matters for them is that at the end of the day, they can see that their choice is not affecting their families’ lives negatively.

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4 Comments Add yours

  1. Srijana says:

    What ever they do moms are always the best

  2. As a working mother with two young boys, I found your post very encouraging. As I read it, I felt good about myself. I often wonder if I’m on the right path. I often wish I could be home with my boys and do more. Your post reassured me that it is okay to work, AND it can be positive.

    1. bellafilippi says:

      You are your boys’ hero! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻thanks for your words♥️

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