What I Know For Sure On My 35th Year


I have been trying to write this since my birthday. 35 is making a lot of noise in my head and keeps me checking my face in the mirror every morning to see if I have a new wrinkle.

I never thought I would be in this moment where I am right now. If you had asked me 10 years ago where do I see myself at 35, probably I would had said something like “Married, 3 kids, and with a successful career in Marketing”. But because of what is happening back home it is going to take me a little bit longer to actually be able to say that. We were not prepared for this.

Let’s be clear; time have changed me in a positive way. Even when I am not where I want to be (yet),  I am a happy woman. I have a suitcase filled with adventures and experiences and some dreams that I need to conquer. I am a true believer that I am where I supposed to be because God’s plan it is bigger than mine and I just need to keep my patience sane and tons of coffee ready to go to survive my every day.

Let me tell you what this old lady knows for sure:

  1. Be careful of how and with who you invest your time, energy and thoughts.

  2. Having true and honest friends it is better than having a lot of “friends”.

  3. Be humble and kind.

  4. Always learn something new. To be successful in life you must stay curious.

  5. When you are hungry you become creative. If you can figured out how to bring food to your table, you can figure out anything that is trying to tumble your life.

  6. Have a few simple goals and a few hard ones. That it is going to keep you in constant moving on the direction of your dreams.

  7. You must let go if you want to get good nights of sleep. Plus, you must sleep at least 8 hours.

  8. If you have to take a huge financial step, do it. You are investing in your future and if you believe in yourself hard enough, you are going to survive and succeed.

  9. Stop giving people second chances. Most of them do not deserve it. If they hurt you once, they are going to do it again, and this time it is going to be your fault.

  10. Believe in God. He knows you better than anyone else and he knows what he is doing.

  11. Not everything that you see is truth. Everything hides a struggle. Do not give up because you do not know who is watching you closely like you are their Hero.

  12. Family is the most important thing in life, without them you could never be where you are today.

  13. Ask for the love you want. Do not wait until the other person figure it out. Life is short and we cannot wait for the other to walk our speed. Help them to know what makes you happy.

  14. Focus on yourself. You came to this world alone and you are going to leave alone.

  15. Pray every night before bed. Praying is going to teach you patience and strength.

  16. Everything, EVERYTHING in life happens for a reason. Just wait and see. Usually what comes it is better than what left.

  17. Do not be afraid of changing what it is not working for you anymore. Maybe at the beginning it not going to be easy but later, you will be thankful for the guts you had.

  18. Nobody is perfect.

  19. You do not need a perfect love story. You need someone to support you, you need someone who believes in you, and you need someone who respect you as the amazing person you are.

  20. Be wise enough to know that you are different from the rest.

  21. Everybody that comes to your life it is because they are going to teach you something. Maybe it is going to be a good experience, maybe not, but at the end you will learn something that you did not know before.

  22. Do not locked yourself at home. You need to go out and meet people. That is the only way to see how doors start to get open for you. Do not be afraid of meeting new friends.

  23. Be yourself and do not try to imitate. Don’t be afraid to be weird, as long as that version of weird is your authentic self.

  24. You will meet a lot of people that will support you on your decisions, but at the same time you will meet some that are not going to be by your side and that is OK. You do not need that kind of negativity in your life.

  25. Do what you are able to do for others. Do not promise things you cannot do.

  26. Do not rush yourself because someone else told you or because society it is pushing you. God’s time is perfect.

  27. We can be addicted to social media. Read more books and spend less time pretending a perfect life.

  28. Do not forget your roots. Always remember where you come from.

  29. Say NO more often.

  30. There are two things that are going to help you to take better decision: traveling alone and staying in silence by yourself.

  31. If you work hard and believe in yourself, you are going to make it.

  32. “Sometimes I wake up and think I look horrible. And sometimes I see a strong woman”… do you understand this?

  33. Protect your love life, people hate to see others happy.

  34. Sometimes you have to get lost to be able to find yourself.

  35. “When you change the way you see things, the things you see change.”  Wayne Dyer

Now, I should stop counting. But what I know for sure is that amazing thing will happen this 2018. Are you with me?


20 Comments Add yours

  1. Bodjetstar says:

    Hmmm……. You really wrote this from experience.
    It really inspires, educate and motivate people to learn more about life.

    1. bellafilippi says:

      Thank you so much for your words 💗

  2. I really enjoyed reading this. You had some good points. I think when you are comfortable with who you are, being weird is ok. There is really not a standard definition of normal.

    1. bellafilippi says:

      Thank you so much for your words 💗

  3. laylaliving says:

    So much great advice. Honest and touching, I needed to read something like this this morning. Thank you, cheers to 35!

    1. bellafilippi says:

      I’m glad you like it 💗💗

  4. Diana says:

    Great post! I really enjoyed reading your post. I need to say no more often.

  5. Farrah says:

    These are such great life lessons! :]! I have a couple in there that I really need to work on (9 and 29)!

    1. bellafilippi says:

      Thank you 🌷please, do it 👏🏻👏🏻

  6. elaineebest says:

    #19 really resonated with me. I recently got married and while we didn’t start off perfectly, it sure does feel perfect now. I think that if the relationship is right, and the foundation is solid, nothing else preceding the present moment matters. The perfect love story can manifest itself in as many different ways as there are couples.

    1. bellafilippi says:

      I will take your comment as an advise. I’m totally loving your words♥️

  7. roseblash says:

    Love your post. I also enjoy the layout of your blog.

    1. bellafilippi says:

      Thank you so much ♥️

  8. Ben Aqiba says:

    Hi Anabella,

    welcome to the club 🙂
    I love birthdays. They remind me that I need to live, because life is passable. I vote for number 4. That keep me alive !

    1. bellafilippi says:

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🌷

      1. Ben Aqiba says:

        You are so welcome Anabella !

  9. Derra says:

    I definitely understand where you are coming from. This is from experience.

    1. bellafilippi says:

      You made my day with this 🌷

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